Whose Fault is This?

You raised them right. Took them to church every Sunday. Disciplined them when they were wrong and praised them when they did good. But your friends and neighbors all blame you because your child is in jail.

You did all you could do, but your child has free will and made his/her own decision. Let them OWN that decision and face the consequences. It is their fault, not yours. 

Could you have done something differently? Maybe. But you can't go back in time and change it.

Stop beating yourself up. 

Constantly fretting about What If's and If Only's will damage you emotionally. Stop it. 

And if your friend or neighbor has something nasty to say to you, turn and walk away. Your ears work just fine, but you do not have to listen.